Have you ever found yourself hard to forgive others sometimes? What do you think is contributing to this difficulty in forgiveness? The part of the person we are looking at that fills our heart and mind would affect our sense of forgiveness.
Remember that man as a free moral being can do good or bad, right or wrong. He can never live a sinless life (Rom. 3:23). He can neither live a life without doing right or good at all (Ecc.7:29). It is sad to say though that it is easier for us to remember the mistakes that one has done than the many good things that he has done in his life. If we will only think of the wrong that our offender has done to us, our heart and mind will only be filled with anger and hatred; therefore, it would make us difficult to forgive him. But, if we will consider and think more of the good things that he has done to us or to others than his mistakes, then it would be easier for us to forgive him.
David is a good example of this attitude toward Saul in the book of 1 Samuel. Saul persecuted and tried to kill him in all of his life. David was given two opportunities to kill Saul in chapters 24 and 26, but he did not do it. Aside from being respectful to Saul as his father-in-law and loyal to him as the anointed of God, he may have also thought and considered the many good things that Saul had done to him, which made him not to stretch out his hand against him.
Therefore, to make it easier for us to forgive those that have done wrong to us, let not their mistakes prevail in our heart and mind, but the many good things that they have done to us or to others. We need to remember that we, too, have done wrong to others and coveted their forgiveness just as our offenders are coveting our forgiveness. Finally, let us bear in mind that if we do not forgive, neither our Father in heaven will forgive our trespasses (Mark 11:25-26).